In the morning, I spoke with the doctor and progressed from silent tears to open sobbing, in front of Mom. I told her to forget everything she saw. Even more sad? I did it when the chaplain was walking past, so Chaplain Stephanie had to stop and offer to pray for me. Mom was still sitting right there, so I couldn’t say to her “Fuck OFF already,” which is what I wanted to say. I mean, I have my mother-in-law praying. At the altar in her home. Top that. In the midst of this breakdown, Gary called, ignored my teary “Hello?” and screamed at me because we have ants again. Really, really bad move Gary.
In the afternoon, Mom said we should start looking at nursing homes, since wasn’t going to get any better. They’ve started tossing steroids at her just to see if that makes a difference, ala Dr. House. Gary apologized about the Ant Issue.
In the evening, she gave her “goodbyes” to everyone. She told me to thank the nursing staff. She said I was a good daughter and she was very proud of me. She said I should tell Gary he was a good son-in-law. He came by and helped her eat. The Ant Issue is in the past.
Nonetheless, the staff said her stats were fine, so I came home.
21 responses to “Nothing Funny to See Here”
I have nothing to offer except to say I am so very sorry. I wish I had a magic wand, I would certainly use it.
A nursing home may not be a bad thing. It seems like she expends an enormous amount of energy doing things for herself, energy that her body needs elsewhere.Hoping for the best….~~Silk
I’m so sorry to hear it.
Feeling for you (my mother died on Good Friday). You are a good daughter – that’s a comfort for everyone – and you’ll use the time well.
I’m so sorry. You are a good daughter, and your mom is a good mom. Take care.
Well, shit. This isn’t the news I think we all were hoping for. I’m available if you need a live and in-person ear. Seriously.
I’m really sorry this is happening. I don’t have an altar in my home, but I put a plug-in every morning when I check your blog. Heidi
Oh, Queen, I’m so sorry about your mom. Tell her we’re all thinking of her and thinking of you too, and positive vibes can’t hurt, right?
Oh crap. I read and responded to an earlier post before I saw this one. I am so sorry. I have only been reading your blog for a short while but it is so apparent that you are a great daughter. I’m hoping for the best for both of you.
Sending hopeful healing vibes to the Queen Mum and be strong vibes to the Queen.
I’m so sorry to hear your Mom isn’t doing well. My thoughts are with you both.
I’m very sorry about your mom’s health. From your descriptions, and her blog, she’s a great lady and adds a lot to everyone’s lives.
Ellen – good thoughts and prayers coming your way. (Even if I’m Catholic) 😉 I hope your Mom is OK.
Not much of a pray-er generally, but sounds like that might be the kind that suit you best. So I’m on it. And also sending you love and strength.
*hugs* I send my love to you and yours.
I may not have any idea what God I’m praying to these days, but know that I’m saying a lot of them for you and your mother. Take care of yourself, we’ll be here whenever you’re ready.
Oh my. You must be living minute to minute. You’re a wonderful daughter.
I am giving my very best thoughts to you both.
Thinking best thoughts for you.
Here’s hoping the Queen Mother has many, many Bingo cards in her future.I’m sorry she won’t be able to live alone, but I also think it will be best for both of you to accept the help that she needs.
Corinne – Hi! Hi Corinne. Because everyone new gets a hi! Even though it confused me when Erin at Lucky Broadway Girl said hi. I was all “Hi? Do you think I’m someone you know?”Everyone – thank you all. But, much like Dingo, you may wish you had held off for the next page in the story. Really, I’ll just assume you feel even worse.