Category: Life In the Big House

Gary has lucid dreams every night (hence this blog category devoted to his Big House dreams). I, on the other hand, have had no dreams since I stopped using an alarm to wake up. I have REM cycles, as documented by the Apple Watch. It’s just I wake so slowly and gently now that I…

Following a long fallow period that lasted through the pandemic, Gary has had a notable dream. Sadly, it isn’t the recurring Big House Dream, but it is a recurring dream. He is in grade school, playing cards with a childhood friend, Dave. Dave’s mom allowsa homeless man accompanied by A DEER (Gary?) to live in…

A few nights ago I sat up in bed, yelling. I would say I woke up screaming from a nightmare, only none of those things are true. I didn’t wake up: I can’t say I was asleep yet. I was in that twilight state when the baby chickens walk around the bedroom. It wasn’t a…

Gary has a journal. (He chose this journal because he is a goth tween.) We had a conversation after it arrived. He said, “I think this has magical powers. I had a headache and then I smelled my grimoire and now my headache is gone.” “Smelled what?” “This. My grimoire.” “Not a real word.” “Yes…

I have been up for two hours now, and I am still mad that the man helping me rearrange the garage essentially stole my car. We agreed on a price of $2,500, he signed the agreement, drove off in the car, and then I looked at the paperwork and he wrote $200, not $2,500. None…

Last Friday, Gary had another of his recurrent Big House dreams. The last one was almost exactly one year ago to the day. (Previous visits to the Big House weren’t on any schedule, though, so I think it’s coincidence.) As it happens so often in the Big House, it was being invaded. This time the…

Yesterday Gary dreamed he was a spy being beaten in a North Korean prison. I said, “Oh, you had the radio on,” because I imagined NPR could easily infiltrate his subconscious with some expose of Korean work camps. “I don’t listen to the radio anymore,” he said huffily, and then I realized that any alarm…

So, I can’t count the times I’ve said to someone, “I need a nap. I just had one of those dreams that you have when you are falling asleep.” If they say, “What are you talking about,” I usually reply, “Oh you know, how you’ll be falling asleep and then you notice the chickens that…

As many of you know, my husband Gary is a master of lucid dreaming. I frequently wake him up in the morning, have a conversation with him, and then he goes back to the dream he was in and finishes the dream. I. Find. This. Freaky. Now, he has decided that instead of surfing his…

Gary has had so many recurring dreams about a Big House that it rated its own Blog Category. And then – no Big House dream for five and a half years, since he has been retired. I believed that made the Big House dream analysis easy: Big House = responsibilities. It did tend to surface…